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I’ll cry if I want to

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So, little Awena turned one at the weekend. The sun shone, which sandwiched between two horrendously wet days, was a great blessing. I woke up at 03.50 realising at that time last year I’d had my first skin to skin and Awena had by, now, 20 minutes after being born, been popped in an incubator.  […]

2020

This is me

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You’ve probably heard it said “every baby is different” and of course that’s true.  In fact, every mother is different too.  We might think one thing worked with one child, but then try it with another and it’s a total flop.  We all parent differently.  We all read different things, follow different trends and believe […]

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Rainbows and butterflies

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One thing I hold lockdown completely responsible for is robbing me of my creative streak.  I haven’t written a blog consistently for months, not due to the lack of something to say, but due to the fact that I have just found it so difficult to motivate myself to be expressive.  Emotions are funny things […]

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The power of touch

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Did you know that positive physical touch is necessary for human survival?  Crazy eh?  The other day I popped a little question up on Facebook to ask if you could do anything today, what would that be.  74% responded with seeing friends and family and of that 74%, 41% specified seeing friends and family and […]

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Wake up and pay attention

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I learnt a valuable lesson on Saturday.  One of the challenges I have found in becoming a mum of two is making sure my attention appears fairly distributed.  Obviously, as a six-month-old, Awena requires more of my immediate attention; she needs to be fed, dressed, have her happy changed, be carried to get from A […]

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Wind the Bobbin Up

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Have you ever wondered why it is we sing such bizarre, action-packed songs to babies? I’ve never given it much thought until the other day. As play therapists, we are ethically required to have supervision. This ensures our emotional safety and therefore the child’s too as well as providing a space to discuss the metaphors […]

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Peace, be still

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Time is definitely a healer, right? This may be so but it’s definitely not a remover. Yesterday was national premature baby day. Be it randomly or coincidentally, whilst watching Bake Off #GBBO this incredibly emotive Pampers advert popped up. It took me right back. I haven’t been able to shift the feeling it evoked. All […]

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Bridge over troubled water

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Can anyone else believe we are in November already and can count on one hand the number of people who have been to your house in the last 8 months?  It’s been quite a year and one in which we really need to pull together…but, oh, wait, that is one of the things that has […]

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Candle in the wind

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I’m a bit unsure as to how to introduce today’s blog.  I think all I can do is allow the words below to do the work.  As many of you are probably aware last week was a remembrance week for all those who have lost a baby at whatever stage of pregnancy or life.  I […]

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The sweetest gift

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Why is mum guilt such a real and often daily thing?  Why is it that when they’re tucked up in bed you look at them and think; “why can’t I feel these in-love and mushy feelings towards them when they’re up and about, climbing the walls and generally driving me around the bend?”  I definitely […]